So often I hear how terrible black women are portrayed. We are either too emotional, too sassy, too loud, too ratchet, too ghetto, too ignorant, unnecessary, too outspoken, unwanted, not desirable, and I’m tired of it… I’m tired of having to try to change how I say, do or react to things to make others comfortable. I’m tired of the targets and labels that are put on our heads every time we show any type of emotion or opinion on how we need to be regarded and treated not only by our black men, but by other black women as well and outside cultures.
As a woman first, I see us being underpaid, and that’s okay with society. I see us being mistreated and that’s okay for society to accept. We are deemed too dramatic when we react to how we are being mistreated and it has to stop. You ever look up the definition of what a woman or man is? If you haven’t, just take a look. You can find the definition of a woman and a man according to Merriam-Webster dictionary here and here. Even in this dictionary, you see how wrong they do us. We are defined as ‘servant’ and/or ‘personal attendant’. While the men are defined as ‘one possessing in high degree the qualities considered distinctive of manhood’. Hmm….ok. Thanks Webster. I just don’t get it.
“A woman’s life is not an audition to become someone’s wife.” – Unknown Source
But, I guess if we conformed to our dutiful house wife work and child-bearing ways, then we wouldn’t be so emotional and worried about how much we make in comparison to a man huh. If we ‘stayed int the kitchen’ and lived to tend to a man then we would be right on track huh. It’s sad. That we are only called a ‘lady’ when we sit quiet, with our legs crossed, only speaking when spoken to, never being too opinionated, never being too loud, never having a voice. I guess then we will live up to out womanly ways. Shame on us right? As a woman, it is our right to speak out loud, to feel out loud, to be a woman OUT LOUD. That is what truly makes a woman.
Now y’all know I love me some Zoe, so here is her interview on Sense of Self and what it truly means to be a woman. Take a listen!
As always, Peace & Love